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The Journey - Preeti's Story
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Preeti is a Corporate Trainer a public speaker, a Counselor, a fitness consultant, a PR professional, an Author and specializes in motivating people.

She started out as an Aerobic instructor (the first blind person to have taken this on as a career), and simultaneously worked as a computer and English teacher. She has also been a Sales and Marketing manager, a freelance journalist, a public speaker, a fund-raiser and a disability rights activist.

Here is her story in her own words.
 
I am 49 today and am a blind woman; and have been seeing this beautiful world aided efficiently by my other senses.
 
When I was in class 2, constant complaints from my teachers regarding my unwillingness to participate in written activities began to alarm my parents. A meeting with my teachers and their own confidence in my sincerity maneuvered them towards a thorough medical exam for me.   This agonizing experience brought fourth my disability. The trauma that followed must have been nerve shattering for both my parents!
 

At this time we were stationed in the remote township of Agartala, the capital of Tripura, where medical and rehabilitation services were scarce. My parents simply had no idea as to what they must do next. They definitely had the option of admitting me to a school for the blind, but   this, fortunately for me, made them shudder. As the condition of these scarce institutions was even then more than appalling so they continued to bring me up as they were doing.

I was taught everything, only it was done in a way I was able to grasp and absorb the knowledge being imparted. For example, mummy would close her own eyes and develop her special style of doing particular activities, and then she would teach me the same; so as to enable me to quickly learn without the aid of eyesight all that I needed to know. Thus, life began to move forward sprinkled lavishly with more than my share of challenges, but embraced between the arms of encouragement and love, I trotted along the bumpy road of life with extraordinary enthusiasm.

The first major set back came along when I was thrown out of school at the end of class VIII on the pretext that I was blind. My formal education came to a stand still as no other regular school wanted to admit me even after great efforts of my parents. Blind schools were the only other option, which was unacceptable. Therefore I had no school to go to and stayed at home and was put to learning music. But as I did not have an aptitude for the same, I could never excel in it. And my dream was to become a world famous sitarist.  This crashed in my face after I had put in 8 years of very hard labor!  
Another of my big dreams was to get married to the man who would be the ideal friend, partner and an honest and sensitive human being. And, I would like you to get a glimpse of the torments I was subjected to, for simply daring to dream such a dream, because I was blind.  

Interestingly, boys / men most willingly chose me for their friend but they all took to their heels the moment they detected the slightest of risk of getting anywhere near a chance of tying the knot with me!  And, an arrange marriage was out of the question because no one in our country will go with open eyes and marry a blind girl. So, all that I got at this time was pitiful glances and suggestions that I marry a blind man or marry someone from a very poor background.

It was not as if I was against this idea; but, the man I would marry, most certainly had to fit the criteria of my dream husband. The advisers did not take to this favorably, “she should be grateful should anyone in the first place agree to marry her; instead, look at her audacity,” they scorned, “she can’t see a thing and expects the best in the world

”! Thanks heaven, my parents stood their ground and made it clear that marriage for me would be entirely my own decision!
Then came the day I met my first husband. He seemed an extremely good person and we were married in the year 1982. Little did I know I had landed myself into the fire from the frying pan! The marriage was on the rocks right from the first night and before I could recover from this unexpected blow, I was a mother of two children. I kept trying to make things work but they only got worse.

By 1986, I knew I had to do something about getting the children and myself out of the mess we were in. To do this, I had to first become economically independent, and that meant finding employment. But what would I do? No one would give me a respectable job with a class 10 education! But my mind was set, I had to make my life livable, my children and I all deserved much better than this. Life only comes once and no one or nothing has the right to destroy it. My spirit was screaming for freedom and joy and I had to obey!

 At that time the only skills I possessed were being a good homemaker and a reasonably good typist, and I had a very basic knowledge of music plus a disability. It took me a whole year of searching before I hit upon the idea of training to be an aerobic instructor.

In 1988, I opened my own classes and took the first steps towards self-dependence. It was very hard work but I enjoyed every bit of it, as I knew that this was the golden key to my freedom and joy!  Keeping the rewards on top of my mind, enjoying the host of new experiences and relationships I encountered during the process of carving a new life for my children and myself, I began to unveil the powers I had within.

Note: Each one of us have been bestowed with the power that I am talking about, some of you must already be using it.

Step by step I learnt to face the outside world where lay the real challenges. When people discovered I was there competing for my place in the main stream, they made life even tougher for me. Why should a blind woman be walking shoulder to shoulder with capable non-defective humans? She can be bestowed with pity and charity but how can she be allowed to live along side, enjoying equal status with us? This still remains an uphill battle; one that I am a female and the other that I am a disabled one at that.
I do get a lot of appreciation on the surface but not many make life smooth for me.  It is one thing to poor thing me and a completely different thing to acknowledge the fact that I am as good and at times better than them despite my disability. But again, I had been taught never to give up.  “Try again and you will succeed”. I just did that.

In 1993, I finally separated from my first husband. The children and I moved into my parent’s home where I was once more undauntedly supported by both my parents and brother and sister-in-law. In 1994, I took up a full time job at the National Association for the Blind as a resource teacher. From there I moved on to getting a job of a Marketing and Sales Manager with a food marketing company. It was here that I met my second husband. Although he was almost 10 years younger to me, I knew he was the one I had been hunting for! We have been married for the last 12 years and this time I made no mistake. Once more the “try again…” saying made me a winner.

 Today I have my own organization ‘Silver Linings’, as well as a superb job plus I am a consultant with a number of reputed NGOs.  Along with my various professions, I am now an established Corporate Trainer, and am beginning to make a place for myself in this competitive field too. 

The aim of Silver Linings is to train, inspire and facilitate everyone, especially disabled and under privileged women find their own place in the world and move towards complete empowerment and success. I am a proud mother of two children and a very happy grandmother of one. I have a wonderful husband, a loving family, a beautiful home and great friends.

Just to mention a few careers I carved out for myself, I have been an aerobic teacher (the first blind person to have taken this as a career), a counselor, a computer and an English teacher; I have been a sales and marketing manager, a free lance Journalist, a fund-raiser and a public relations person.

Look for the strength inside of you and stop worrying about what others will think of you… your dreams are awaiting you… simply stretch out your hand and grab them!